Not ready to jump back in but dating as a vegan worries me

I’ll start by saying I’m vegan, 5 years in a week, and I’m sober.

I’m separated and it’s going to be a long tumultuous divorce with child custody, so I’m not wanting to jump back in anytime soon. But talking to a friend this popped in my head. Who will date me as a sober vegan? I do not live in an area with a lot of vegans. My husband wasn’t and I’m the only vegan I know and I made it work.

I’m already taking it out of the equation that whoever I end up dating has to be vegan, although that would be ideal. It’s just not in the cards where I live. Being vegan is one thing but being vegan AND sober is another and I think I’m just destined to be alone forever because of this.

Anyone else feel the same feelings?

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Although dating as a vegan is more challenging, I don’t believe that sobriety is a deal breaker for anyone. Even though I’m not a wild child or anything, it would be healthier for me to abstain from beer, so I would actually prefer that in a spouse. For many, a positive impact is a beneficial thing.

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Hi, vegan who is also sober. :wave:

I thought I would bring up r/veganr4r and the Vegan Dating Lounge Discord dating server, where thousands of moral vegans are seeking love. When the time comes for you to start dating again, those could be useful places to check out. Sending you my best wishes!

Sincerely, trying to date as a vegan bartenderIt’s much harder for me to locate vegans who don’t mind drinking. Every vegan I come across on Grazer or Veggly seems to be talking about sobriety or being straight edge. Though I don’t think it’s a deal breaker, I think my career is probably the reason people avoid me.

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I live in a place where the majority of people are vegan, I’m divorced, I don’t drink, and I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. At this point, I gave up trying. It’s just too difficult, and I disagree with many of the characteristics that most vegans have. Besides, I detest dating and getting to know new people. remove it from my life, come to terms with it, and make an effort to concentrate on other objectives.

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This is a sober vegan woman. I’m having trouble finding the appropriate individual, but I don’t think being vegan or sober is a factor. I don’t mind if someone drinks, but I detest smoking, which many people who claim to be sober do.

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I used to be a vegan teetotaler. I would suggest becoming involved with a local vegan meetup group. Although their only purpose is to share meals, several single people frequently attend. We also host vegan potluck meals locally where people bring food to share. These aren’t really about dating, so you can just enjoy the company and cuisine while brainstorming potential careers. But it’s fixated on the likelihood of running into vegans. Sadly, the majority still consume alcohol.

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My partner and I are both sober vegans. There’s even a subreddit for it! Have some hope, and try not to assume you’ll have to compromise your morals to find a mate!

I don’t drink, and I never have, but I’m not “sober” per se. Apart from my parents, I’m the only vegan I know, and I identify as gay. I’ve tried online dating a few times, and I usually find that on LGBT dating sites, I can find vegetarians or, at most, timid vegans, but on vegan dating sites, I can’t for the life of me get any interactions.

I will state that my ideal partner would be vegan, or at the very least, someone who values animal welfare and behaves accordingly (I’d be open to dating someone who isn’t a freegan).

It hasn’t been the booze problem, but my situation isn’t the same. Good fortune to you!

Here’s a nondrinker vegan. Is it possible to date a vegan who smokes or drinks tobacco products? That could slightly expand your options.

I would suggest expanding your horizons to include dating vegetarians. Not because I’m clean or anything, just because a lot of vegans already have it tough!

Many of our ideals are shared by vegetarians, but if you date non-vegans instead of vegans, you’ll probably wind up consuming less animal products overall if you’re thinking about your principles.