Choosing restaurants with Omni’s rant

I went away for my 40th bday with 3 omnis for a couple days. I’m a bit annoyed because first of all it was absolutely out of the question we might go for even one meal to an all vegan restaurant, and then on top of that a couple times it seems like they decided where we were going without even looking at the menu if I could get anything. Every single time I said just wait I have to look at their menu and my cousin said “they have lots, look I see V marked” and I said that’s VEGETARIAN not vegan. And she gives me this look as if to say isn’t that close enough. At one place the only thing I could have was a lettuce wrap veggie burger and fries which I did but the next day they picked a place that only had a lettuce wrap veggie burger again and they literally started driving there and I’m like no I’m not eating a stupid lettuce wrap burger again I’ll be hungry again in an hour and I don’t want to eat burgers every meal . And they got all annoyed and so I found an omni restaurant close by that had better options for me , and while we dined they grumbled about the food. Another restaurant I was asking the server about some ingredients and he says well the label says “may contain” so is this like a personal choice or an allergy cos if it’s an allergy I would recommend not getting it” and before I can answer my cousin is like “oh trust me it’s a choice, it’s not like a real thing”

Like how is it my birthday trip and I got stuck eating beyond burgers only especially in a place where there were cool vegan places to check out. Oh and at one restaurant, even though I ordered the 3 course vegan option, they brought out a little free happy bday dessert which that’s really nice and I don’t expect it but it’s not vegan so I can’t eat it.

Oh and there was foie gras on the menu at one restaurant and they all started talking about how tasty it is and I told them, you know how that’s made right? They restrain a goose and jam a tube down their throat all the way to their stomach and force feed them fat until their liver bursts essentially. And they were like no that’s not true and I said it absolutely is true and totally legal. And they kind of rolled their eyes at me, but at least they didn’t order it.

Ok end of rant. I have no vegan friends and I hate it.

Yes, these are not companions. Not on any ordinary day, and certainly not on the day of your birthday trip.

You’re 40 and you can’t see that these people aren’t your friends? Cancel it if you respect yourself.

While they visit every vegan restaurant I wish to visit, I don’t have any vegan friends. You have a birthday today. They’re not friends at all if they can’t give up meat on such a momentous occasion.

At a certain point you have to take accountability for who you are allowing to ruin your day or experiences. I doubt their disrespectful behavior came out of nowhere, so if I were you I would stop ignoring signs and red flags and be more selective about who you let in your life. If that means spending your birthday alone then so be it. What’s the point in having “friends” like this if they’re going to make you feel lonely anyway? At least be alone on your own terms where you can go to the restaurants you want to go to.

Indeed, that isn’t cool! When we travel, my extended family and friends are delighted to join me for vegan meals, especially on my birthday. I think your friend’s actions completely betray their lack of regard for you. A few years ago, I had a friend who told me they “could eat more meat because you don’t”; as a result, I cut ties with them.

I don’t hang around with rude, thoughtless omnis. It would be best if you also didn’t.

Sounds awful. Why are people acting so carelessly? Is it possible for you to go to the lovely destinations by yourself? That is preferable to constantly eating with them and getting treated like a fool.

It is quite unpleasant to witness selfishness in individuals you hold dear, and reciprocity was assumed. While I have had similar experiences with some friends, I am also fortunate to have a few non-vegan friends who have excitedly accompanied me to every vegan restaurant.

I’m sorry, OP. You deserved better.

The crazy thing is a non vegan can eat everything off a vegan menu. So it’s really not fair when you compare it that way, but God forbid these people have to eat a delicious vegan meal for one meal of their lives. They just can’t be satiated unless it includes dead carcass or bovine fluids.

I have some non vegan friends that will try stuff though. I feel like some non vegans are way more closed minded than others when it comes to trying vegan food.

Vegan restaurants generally have to be better to stay in business too, if the carnists weren’t always so closed minded they could actually get something better than they usually get.